I think it's hard for them both to understand that.
[There had been a period in Giorno's life where his own birthday had likely been completely overlooked and forgotten, and he probably still carries that with him when it comes to others' birthdays. As Fugo says, he means well. He just doesn't want Fugo to feel sad or alone on what's supposed to be his day, and Polnareff is the same way who meets every form of celebration with exuberant enthusiasm because like Giorno, he'd do just about anything to avoid someone feeling sad for too long.]
[Which is why Bruno allows both of them to make a fuss over his own birthday. He feels no particular strong feelings one way or another about his birthday being made into a big deal or not, but it's because he doesn't particularly want it to be quiet either that he's able to allow them to celebrate it in a way that feels good for both of them. For Bruno, even if it feels nice to be the center of their attention and affection, it's really not about what he wants or needs. At least not entirely.]
[But for all the ways in which Fugo is like Bruno, he isn't Bruno. He doesn't want the attention and feels uncomfortable with open displays of affection. There is a middle ground here, Bruno believes, but it just hasn't been found yet.]
I don't think it's impossible for them to understand though. They want to show you that they love and care about you, but it needs to be in a way that you're okay with. I think whatever limits you set, they'd listen to because they care so much.
[Bruno tips his head a little because,]
Well, Jean might fuss a little because he's had a very different childhood than you, me, and Giorno. [It makes it harder for Polnareff to really understand their approaches to life completely. At least not without a lot of (repeated) explanation.] But if you set a hard limit, he'll respect it. He didn't like leaving presents outside Kakyoin's door, but he did it anyway because that's what Kakyoin told him was acceptable.
I think if you do that with each of them, it might feel a little better for all three of you. You won't feel like you're being an asshole, and they won't feel like you're being left out or forgotten in something important.
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[There had been a period in Giorno's life where his own birthday had likely been completely overlooked and forgotten, and he probably still carries that with him when it comes to others' birthdays. As Fugo says, he means well. He just doesn't want Fugo to feel sad or alone on what's supposed to be his day, and Polnareff is the same way who meets every form of celebration with exuberant enthusiasm because like Giorno, he'd do just about anything to avoid someone feeling sad for too long.]
[Which is why Bruno allows both of them to make a fuss over his own birthday. He feels no particular strong feelings one way or another about his birthday being made into a big deal or not, but it's because he doesn't particularly want it to be quiet either that he's able to allow them to celebrate it in a way that feels good for both of them. For Bruno, even if it feels nice to be the center of their attention and affection, it's really not about what he wants or needs. At least not entirely.]
[But for all the ways in which Fugo is like Bruno, he isn't Bruno. He doesn't want the attention and feels uncomfortable with open displays of affection. There is a middle ground here, Bruno believes, but it just hasn't been found yet.]
I don't think it's impossible for them to understand though. They want to show you that they love and care about you, but it needs to be in a way that you're okay with. I think whatever limits you set, they'd listen to because they care so much.
[Bruno tips his head a little because,]
Well, Jean might fuss a little because he's had a very different childhood than you, me, and Giorno. [It makes it harder for Polnareff to really understand their approaches to life completely. At least not without a lot of (repeated) explanation.] But if you set a hard limit, he'll respect it. He didn't like leaving presents outside Kakyoin's door, but he did it anyway because that's what Kakyoin told him was acceptable.
I think if you do that with each of them, it might feel a little better for all three of you. You won't feel like you're being an asshole, and they won't feel like you're being left out or forgotten in something important.